Tuesday, April 29, 2014


Child Sexual Abuse Aftereffects Checklist--15 more Aftereffects in 2 days

1.  Fear of being alone in the dark, of sleeping alone; night terrors.

2.  Swallowing and gagging sensitivity; repugnance to water on one's face; suffocation feelings.

3.  Alienation from the body--not comfortable in one's own body; failure to heed body signals or take care of one's body; poor body image.

4.   Gastrointestinal problems, gynecological disorders--including spontaneous vaginal infections; headaches; arthritis or joint pain.

5.   Wearing a lot of clothing or baggy clothing even in the summer; extreme requirement for privacy if using the bathroom or changing clothes.

6.   Eating disorders, drug or alcohol abuse; total abstinence; other addictions; compulsive behaviors.

7.   Self-destructiveness; cutting, self abuse.

8.   Phobias

9.   Need to be invisible, perfect, or perfectively bad.

10.  Suicidal thoughts, attempts, obsession.

11.  Depression (sometimes paralyzing) seemingly baseless crying.

12.  Anger issues

13.  Splitting (depersonalization); shutdown in crisis; psychic numbing; physical pain or numbness associated with a particular memory.

14.  Rigid control of one's thought process; humorlessness; extreme solemnity.

15.  Trust issues.

Saturday, April 26, 2014

By Daniel Burke, Belief Blog Co-editor
(CNN) - Pope Francis made his strongest condemnation of sexual abuse by Catholic clergy on Friday, asking for forgiveness and pledging to impose penalties on "men of the church" who harm children.
“I feel compelled to personally take on all the evil which some priests, quite a few in number, obviously not compared to the number of all the priests, to personally ask for forgiveness for the damage they have done for having sexually abused children," the Pope said in remarks quoted by Vatican Radio.
"The Church is aware of this damage, it is personal, moral damage carried out by men of the Church, and we will not take one step backward with regards to how we will deal with this problem, and the sanctions that must be imposed," Francis continued. "On the contrary, we have to be even stronger. Because you cannot interfere with children."
The Pope's new comments, made to a Catholic NGO on Friday, represent a shift from his previous statements on sexual abuse

Tuesday, April 22, 2014


Friday, April 18, 2014



new illegal case to petition


Kimberly Caselman was shocked when she was forced to leave work—without pay.1
After all, she loved her job at Pier 1. She was doing her work well and counting on the income since there was a new baby on the way. But what she didn't realize is that Pier 1 has an illegal policy on its books--pregnant workers are given 8 weeks of light duty and then forced to take unpaid leave, whether they want to or not.2

Thursday, April 17, 2014

What is a Hero?


A is an ordinary person during extraordinary times who cares more about a complete stranger then themselves

Dr. Ellsworth's Books and CD's

Dr. Ellsworth has been my counselor and friend for many decades.  These are some of the books and CD's he's made available to the public.  I can highly recommend them to you.  I receive no compensation for posting this information.  I view it as a public service.  That's how good I think they are.

More here:  http://drsterlingellsworth.com/books.html

BOOKS:How I Got This Way and What To Do About It
Latter-day Plague: Breaking the Chains of Pornography
CD:Making Sense of Life's Failures and Successes

A popular lecturer and counselor, Dr. Sterling Ellsworth's books and CD's share his years of wisdom and wit. These wonderful editions help us overcome the negative character traits that have accumulated from the challenges of earth life. Learn the tools that give you the power to free the goodness within you.

Discover for yourself how simple and profound the truths are that will set you free.
As an LDS psychologist, Dr. Ellsworth incorporates his counseling techniques with gospel teachings and illustrates exactly how you can reach out to love that little child inside of you, who still needs love and caring. When the inner child heals, you heal!

These books are available in a few book stores or best choice ordered directly from the Ellsworth office.


Warning Signals of an Abusive Mate or Date
Ann Landers, Advice Columnist

Dear Ann Landers: Please print this list of
warning signals to help women determine if a
mate or date is a potential (or actual) batterer:

1. Jealousy of your time with coworkers, friends
and family.

2. Controlling behavior. Controls your comings
and goings and your money and insists on
helping you make personal decisions.

4. Blames others for his problems.
(Unemployment, family quarrels --everything is
your fault.)

5. Hypersensitivity. (Easily upset by annoyances
that are a part of daily life, such as being asked
to work overtime, criticism of any kind, being
asked to help with chores or child care.)

6. Cruelty to animals or children. (Insensitive to
their pain and suffering, may tease and/or hurt
children and animals.

7. “Playful” use of force in sex. (May throw you
down and hold you during sex. May start having
sex with you when you are sleeping or demand
sex when you are ill or tired.)

8. Verbal abuse. (Says cruel and hurtful things,
degrades and humiliates you, wakes you up to
verbally abuse you or doesn’t let you go to

9. Dr. Jekyll and Mr. Hyde personality. (Sudden
mood swings and unpredictable behavior - one
minute loving, the next minute angry and

10. Past history of battering. (Has hit others but
has a list of excuses for “having been pushed
over the edge.”)

11. Threats of violence. (Says, “I’ll slap you or
I’ll break your neck.”)

12. Breaking or striking objects. (Breaks your
possessions, beats on the table with fists, throws
objects near or at you or your children.)

13. Uses force during an argument. (Holds you
down or against the wall, pushes, shoves, slaps
or kicks you. This type of behavior can easily
escalate to choking, stabbing or shooting.)

Ann, please tell your readers they don’t have to
accept violent behavior from anyone --mates,
dates, parents or friends. Because nearly half of
all American women will be battered at some
time in their lives, they need to know how to
read the warning signs. Tell them help is as
close as the telephone. Any woman who sees
herself in the column today should call the
nearest women’s crisis line and tell someone
what is happening. She will be provided with
support and safety options.

There are several ways to break the cycle of
violence, and identifying the warning signs is
the first step.  But some women do not realize that they are
being abused until someone points it out to

Sunday, April 13, 2014

Please sign petition to properly punish wealthy molester

Robert Richards IV, a wealthy heir to the DuPont fortune, was convicted of raping his 3-year-old daughter and sexually abusing his 19-month-old son, crimes he admitted to. But instead of putting this dangerous abuser behind bars, the judge shockingly gave him only probation, justifying this by saying Richards "wouldn't fare well" in prison.
The idea that someone's sentencing should be based on their financial position and the luxuries that they're used to is disgusting. But even more importantly, two young survivors of sexual abuse will see no justice, and a violent pedophile is walking free. The judge in this case, Jan Jurden, is sending the unbelievable message that if you've got a trust fund and a powerful family, you are free to do whatever you want with zero consequences--including raping your children.
That's not the world we want to live in. And that's not the world survivors of rape and violence deserve to live in.

Please go to this link and sign the petition to have Judge Jan Jurden rethink her decision about such a light message:


Saturday, April 12, 2014



Prevent Now! Awareness presentation about the impact of Child Sexual Abuse

Svava Brooks Authorized Darkness to Light Stewards of Children Facilitator

Thursday, April 17, 2014 from 10:00 AM to 12:00 PM (PDT)

San Diego, CA

Friday, April 11, 2014

This website has free webinars on parent-child relationships and how to better parent your child. 


Thursday, April 10, 2014

Responding to child abuse and neglect involves protecting children from harm and supporting families to reduce the risk of future harm to children. Reports from professionals and concerned citizens are received by child protective services (CPS) staff alerting them to concerns about a child’s welfare. CPS staff may initiate an investigation to determine if a child has been or is at risk of being harmed. Staff may also assess the child’s and family’s needs or engage in other interventions to support the family’s efforts to provide a safe, nurturing environment for their children. CPS professionals may work with law enforcement, courts, other professionals, and community members to protect children and support families

The above quote is from https://www.childwelfare.gov/responding/overview.cfm .  They have a wealth of information for parents, professionals and community leaders.  Please let me know what your interests are and I will give you good sources of information.  Thanks for visiting Deliver Us From Evil.

Sunday, April 6, 2014


I am going to keep up on my blog a couple times a week or more from this point on.  I'd like to add something everyday but with writing classes and my book I really stay busy.  My book, Deliver Us From Evil is about my sister and my journey from when we were little 3 or 4 yrs. old on being molested and raped by our Mormon Bishop father and having to live with a controlling, moody sociopath everyday.  Our house was like a crazy making family with no rhyme nor reason to the discipline and chaos that went on there.  There are wild sex parties with prostitutes that my dad has after he has abused us for years, there is a near death experience I had at 9 when my father's hand was over my mouth and nose and I almost was suffocated.  The book is full of twists and turns.  It will be published in 2015 we hope and I will keep everyone notified with this blog as to its publication. 
This is also a no judgment zone.  No one will be judged for anything said unless you are rude or unkind.  April is National Child Abuse Prevention Month and I will be giving ways to get involved.  One thing that is simple to do is to get to know your neighbors especially those with children and tell a mom how good they are doing with their mothering skills in the community when you see someone disciplining their child well (without spanking, yelling or other types of abuse.  Simple things you can do in the community.
Please share your comments and remarks or your story.  This is enough today.  I will see you in the next couple of days.  God bless... Deborah