Friday, December 30, 2016

Emotionally Abusive Relationships: Part 2

Emotionally Abusive Relationships: Part 2


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In Part One this series, I offered a relationship scenario that subtly but powerfully indicated some of the manifestations of emotional abuse.  Research shows that women and men equally take on the role of either the abuser or the person who is victimized. Emotional abuse can occur in any kind of relationship: intimate partners; a parent and a child; two friends; siblings; a boss and his or her employee; or between colleagues.  Although the emotionally abusive interplay between people can fly under the radar or be minimized or rationalized by either person, the cumulative effect takes a profound toll, particularly on one’s sense of self-worth and self-esteem.  Here are just a few of the classic red flags to look for when considering the possibility that the dynamics in a relationship are emotionally abusive:
  • Communication is designed to humiliate, shame, or demean.  The abuser enjoys “finding fault” with or “correcting” their partner, frequently pointing out their mistakes as a way to put them down both privately and in front of other people.
  • The abuser frequently belittles or disregards the other person’s thoughts, feelings, opinions, suggestions, or ideas, making it unsafe for them to freely or safely express themselves. In addition, they disregard the other person’s right to privacy or boundaries.
  • Teasing and sarcasm are employed to make the other person appear foolish. Yet when the victim complains they are accused of being “overly sensitive” or not having a sense of humor.
  • The abuser seeks to control all aspects of the relationship through financial withholding, verbal or physical intimidation, sex, granting or denying “permission,” stalking or harassing, or by making unilateral decisions that impact the other person.
  • The victim often feels “punished” by the abuser and over time is brainwashed into believing that they deserve the maltreatment they’ve received.
  • The abuser is usually emotionally distant and unavailable, forcing their partner to “work for” even the smallest degree of validation, support, or comfort. The victim is also made to feel guilt for wanting any emotional connection at all.
Since all of these behaviors are “normalized” or justified by the abuser, they create tremendous confusion and self-doubt in the victim.  Part of why it’s so difficult for the victim to summon the courage to leave an emotionally abusive relationship is because they continually question their right to be upset, afraid, angry, or unhappy.  In these situations, the support, guidance and encouragement of a well trained professional who understands the nuances of emotional abuse becomes a necessary resource.
If you’ve found the strength to leave this kind of relationship, please share your story to inspire others.

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Thursday, December 15, 2016


Holiday Mental Health: Merriment When You Don’t Feel Merry

Do you hate the holidays? The holiday season affects mental health. All the merriment can increase a sense of depression, anxiety, and isolation. Festivities can exacerbate the stresses and symptoms of eating disorders. In general, the people, sights, smells, and sounds can be overwhelming for almost anyone living with a mental illness.
The holiday season is here, wanted or unwanted, but you do have some control (Manage Your Mental Illness Through the Holidays). You can choose to deal with the merriment in a way that works for you even when you don't feel merry. Try these suggestions to aid your mental health through the holiday season:
  • Let time be on your side. If you must go to a merry place but don't want to, tell the host that you can only stay for a while. Knowing that you can leave at a set time can help you endure.
  • Busy yourself. Do crowds or small talk make you anxious? Distance yourself by staying busy doing something other than mingle.
  • Be selective. Chose one or two events to attend, and then politely decline other invitations.
  • Make yourself merry. If you don't have holiday festivities in your life, be merry for yourself. Pamper yourself, do what you love, and create a gratitude list.
Holidays do take a toll on mental health. Even if you don't feel merry, there are ways to tolerate the merriment of the season.

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Tuesday, November 29, 2016

Emotionally Abusive Relationships - Part One

Lisa Ferentz LCSW-C, DAPA

Emotionally Abusive Relationships - Part One

A silent killer of self-esteem.
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Recently I was sitting in a Starbucks catching up on my e-mail when it became impossible not to overhear the conversation happening in such close proximity at the next table.  A young couple was engaged in the seemingly benign task of deciding what kind of coffees to order.  What grabbed my attention was the subtle but powerful way in which the husband continually dismissed his wife’s timid declaration about what she wanted to drink. “I’ll have a latte,” she said in a whisper.  “You don't really want a latte,” he said with calm authority, “You claim you want a latte but then you never finish it,” he added without humor. “I don't want to order something you’re not gonna drink.”  His wife dropped her head and took on a kind of collapsed body posture.  It sounded like a father chastising a small child. She immediately acquiesced, “Okay, then don't order me anything.”
For the next 20 minutes they sat there.  He took his time with his large coffee drink and she patiently waited, drinking nothing.  He took out his phone and focused on it as if she weren’t there. The few times she tried to initiate conversation he either ignored her or put up his hand and subtly shook his head no, a clear non-verbal sign that let her know she was interrupting him and whatever he was attending to on his phone was more important.  When he was finished he said, “Okay, let’s go.” She dutifully got up and followed a few steps behind him as they left the coffee shop.
In all honesty there were several different times when I wanted to intervene.  Despite the fact that he never raised his voice, I could sense how controlling he was and how submissive she needed to be.  Looking at it through a therapeutic lens it was a powerful example of an emotionally abusive relationship. These are relationships that can seem unremarkable to the outside world. She had no visible signs of physical trauma, although I would argue that her constricted body language and timid voice spoke volumes. They were both very well dressed and the scenario of sitting in Starbucks seemed innocent enough. He never yelled at her and his dismissive gestures were extremely subtle.  Probably to an untrained eye, the entire encounter would have been ignored.
Although emotional abuse can be subtle the impact is profound and can create intense self-doubt, fear, anxiety, anger, and depression
I have worked with many women and several men, too, who were genuinely surprised at my suggestion that they were in an emotionally abusive relationship.  The word “abusive” is most often associated with overt behaviors that cause physical harm.  But dynamics of control, intimidation, treating a partner as “less than,” financially withholding, minimizing or belittling their thoughts, feelings, and needs are important signs that are often rationalized or excused by the victim. They are, in fact, indicators of emotional abuse that may or may not escalate to other manifestations of maltreatment.
Everyone has the right to feel safe, respected, validated, understood, and supported in their personal relationships. No one has the right to use power or control to manipulate, subjugate, or demean their partner. Although emotional abuse can be subtle the impact is profound and can create intense self-doubt, fear, anxiety, anger, and depression. If you are in a relationship where it doesn’t feel safe or productive to use your voice, or you’ve been made to feel unworthy, I urge you to get the support you deserve so you can re-claim your dignity, your voice, and your basic human rights.

In Part Two of this series, we will review some of the signs of emotional abuse in more detail.
Deborah Hunter-Marsh

I hope you liked this article as much as I did. I will post the second part as soon as it's posted on the website.
Here's a link to the original article.

Sunday, November 13, 2016

Effects of Child Abuse and Neglect

Effects of Child Abuse and Neglect

Every child has a right to a safe childhood and a life free from violence. The experience of child abuse and neglect infringe upon that right.
The effects of abuse affect each child differently. While the effects of abuse can be severe and long-lasting, children who have been abused or exposed to violence can and do go on to have healthy and productive childhoods and adult lives. Children are resilient, and being able to discuss and guide our children through a recovery process is crucial to their success. It is often the first step towards healing. In most cases, once their safety is assured, children can overcome the effects of trauma through professional counseling or other supportive interventions.

Developmental and psychological and effects

The brain develops at an incredible pace during the early developmental stages of infancy and childhood. Studies about early childhood development indicate that the brain develops in response to experiences with caregivers, family and the community, and that its development is directly linked to the quality and quantity of those experiences. Meeting a child’s needs during these early stages creates emotional stability and security that is needed for healthy brain development. Repeated exposure to stressful events can affect the brain’s stress response, making it more reactive and less adaptive. With time a child may react as if danger is always present in their environment regardless of what the presenting situation actually is.1
Research has found that children exposed to violence or abuse, if left unaddressed or ignored, are at an increased risk for emotional and behavioral problems in the future.2 Children who are abused may not be able to express their feelings safely and as a result, may develop difficulties regulating their emotions. As adults, they may continue to struggle with their feelings, which can lead to depression or anxiety.3
The following are some of possible effects of child abuse and neglect on a child’s mental health:
  • Anxiety
  • Depression
  • Dissociation
  • Difficulty concentrating
  • Academic problems in school-aged children and adolescents
  • Withdrawn and/or difficulty connecting with others
  • Flashbacks
  • Increased hypervigilance
  • Difficulty sleeping
The overall impact of abuse also depends on the child’s natural reactions to stress and ways of coping with stressful situations. Other factors can include age at which the trauma occurred, previous exposure to unrelated traumatic incidents and extent of therapy or timing of intervention.

Physical effects

Children are more physically susceptible to injury than adults as their bodies are still in development. When a child is being physically abused or neglected some of these injuries are apparent. However, there are times when a perpetrator is careful not to leave marks or injuries that are visible so that the abuse is not discovered. Being able to recognize the physical effects of abuse can be crucial in identifying an abusive situation and taking steps to protect a child from further abuse or neglect.
These are some common effects observed in children who have been physically or sexually abused and/or neglected:
  • Bruises, welts or swelling
  • Sprains or fractures
  • Burns
  • Lacerations or abrasions
  • Difficulty in walking or sitting
  • Torn, stained or bloody clothing
  • Pain or itching in the genital area; bruises or bleeding in the external genital area
  • Sexually transmitted infections or diseases
  • Lack of adequate supervision, nutrition or shelter
  • Poor hygiene
  • Inappropriate dress
Children may develop these as ways to cope with complex trauma, or perhaps even to forget or suppress the traumatizing memories.
Possible emotional and behavioral effects of trauma include:
  • Eating disorders
  • Drug use
  • Risky sexual decision-making
  • Self-harm
  • Troubled sleeping
  • Discomfort with physical touch
For more information, learn about the signs of child abuse and neglect here.

Effects on children who witness domestic violence

The emotional toll on children who witness threats or violence against others can be substantial, especially when those involved are familiar to the child and the violence takes place in the home. Children may be affected when they witness domestic violence, regardless of whether or not they are directly abused.
Current research has found that children exposed to domestic violence are at an increased risk for emotional and behavioral problems, including anxiety, depression and academic problems. The research also suggests that some children who have witnessed domestic violence show no symptoms of psychological distress.
Children's responses may depend on the severity and frequency of the abuse, the availability of family and community support, and the child's resilience. Once their safety is assured, most children can overcome the effects of trauma through professional counseling or other supportive interventions.

Once their safety is assured, children who have experienced abuse or neglect can go on to heal and thrive. Being able to discuss and guide our children through a recovery process is crucial to their success, and often the first step towards healing. Most children who have been abused go on to recover and live healthy, productive lives.

Next section: Resources

Previous section: About the issue

1 Stien, Phyllis T. and Kendall, Joshua, Psychological Trauma and Developing Brain: Neurobiological Based Interventions for Troubled Children, 2004, The Haworth Maltreatment and Trauma Press.
2 Child Welfare Information Gateway, “Long-Term Consequences of Child Abuse and Neglect,” Factsheets, (2008),
3 Smith, Melinda and Segal, Jeanne, “Child Abuse & Neglect: Recognizing, Preventing, and Reporting Child Abuse,” (June 2013),

Wednesday, October 26, 2016

Active Bystanding: It’s a Jungle Out There!

We said that Bystander Prevention is getting way out ahead of any harm to a child by being alert to potential boundary violations and grooming, and essentially heading them off at the pass.

One fine summer morning my partner and I went to the big farmers market at our local university. We go there just about every Saturday.

We buy most of our produce from a particular vendor that we like. I’ll call him James. He is a wonderful person and he practices solid ethics at his farm. We’re not the kind of friends that go places together, but we see him and his family every week. That Saturday morning we were in their booth at the same time as this other fellow who was obviously a family friend. You could tell they knew each other well. James and the man chatted a bit, and then James turned away to wait on another customer. My partner and I were nearby in line.

All I can say is that this family friend hugged and touched the young teen daughter in a way that alarmed both of us. I’ll call it near-groping. It did not look good at all. The girl was definitely squirming and cringing, and I was about to crawl out of my skin.
I’ll admit we were both paralyzed in that moment. Neither one of us did anything. It was a brief exchange and the girl managed to extract herself in probably less than 5 seconds, but we saw what we saw. We paid the older son for our vegetables, and as we walked away we checked in with each other. Yes, we were both aghast.

Now as you know, I’m in the sexual abuse prevention business, so I check myself regularly about my reactions. I worry I can be quick on the trigger. Also, I really didn’t know what I should do in that moment. We went home.

In hindsight I can say that what we decided to do next was not what I would do today, some 4 years later. We wrote an anonymous letter to the father. We told him we had been to his booth and exactly what we saw – that his daughter had been hugged and touched by the man in a way that appeared sexual and was definitely uncomfortable for her. We described her reaction. We described the family friend. We asked him to please check in with his daughter about the relationship and we enclosed the Darkness to Light’s booklet The 5 Steps to Protecting our Children.

I’ll give myself maybe a B- for that one.

Today I would be a lot more direct. I honestly don’t remember why we sent the letter anonymously. I still wouldn’t say something right there in public, out of concern for the girl feeling ashamed; but I’d call the father by phone to share what I saw. I’d do this because I’d want to open a dialogue in case he needed advice, or just so that he could process what I was telling him. I’d also want to be as sure as I could be that yes, he’d actually talk to his daughter. And I wouldn’t second-guess myself so much about my “bias.” But at least we did something and what we did was pretty strong.

Monday, October 17, 2016

Brown Signs Bill Revoking California's 10-Year Statute Of Limitation On Rape Cases

SACRAMENTO (AP) — The emotional stories of women who say they were sexually assaulted more than a decade ago by comedian Bill Cosby prompted California state lawmakers to approve a bill to eliminate the state’s 10-year limit on filing rape and related charges.
On Wednesday, Gov. Jerry Brown announced that he has approved the legislation to revoke that limitation.  Beginning next year the bill will end the statute of limitations on certain rape and child molestation cases. Full article here

Wednesday, October 12, 2016



New start-up book club group on Goodreads starting today for anyone who has been sexually abused or has a friend that has been sexually abused. To gain more insight about my book "Deliver Us From Evil" and to discuss ways to diminish this social plight.

Go to the book club link here

Monday, October 10, 2016


Saturday, October 8, 2016


5 Phrases That Can Help Protect Your Child From Sexual Abuse

Lucy Aitkenread
Written May 2, 2016


Over the last few years I have worked with an incredible sexual abuse prevention team.

They provide training for schools, community centers, and governmental organizations, help families out of tragic situations, and provide counseling to victims. The work they do both turns your stomach to lead and lights a fire in your heart – it is unspeakable tragedy but there IS hope.

They have opened my eyes to how every single person in the world can either add to a culture of child sexual abuse, or dismantle it. Our very words can help prevent children from abuse.

Here are a few phrases I’ve learned from them:

“That’s your vulva!”2

We mustn’t let our natural prudishness around anatomical terms for private parts get in the way of our children’s knowledge about their body.

It does take some getting used to, but after a few awkward hiccups my family and I have become proud members of Team Vulva for several reasons!

Prevention specialist with the National Sexual Violence Resource Center, Laura Palumbo, explains how children who know and use the correct anatomical terms discourages perpetrators. In the event of abuse, knowing the correct anatomical terms helps children and adults navigate the disclosure and forensic interview process.

It can help to explain to those close to you your motivation for using these terms. Particularly as it is inevitable that your toddler will eloquently ask Nana, “Do you have a penis or a vulva?” at the dinner table.


We teach our children that STOP is a serious, red light word that will be listened to by everyone.1

When our children are at play and someone says STOP we will intervene to make sure it is honored. When we are wrestling or tickling, if our children say STOP, even through their giggles, we will immediately cease. They nearly always scream GO! a few seconds later but meanwhile they are discovering that only they get to say what happens to their bodies, and if they are not comfortable with something, their STOP is meaningful.

When we stop kissing, tickling, and cuddling when our children request it we are empowering them in that moment. However, it also acts as practice, a role playing, for if something more serious occurs. They are well versed in saying STOP to someone bigger and more powerful than them and they will feel able to use it when it really counts.

“No secrets.”

We don’t have secrets in our family, just surprises.3 Surprises differ from secrets as they are things that are kept quiet momentarily, and revealed to everyone in time.

The term “secret” comes up again and again in the stories of child sexual abuse victims. A culture of secrecy is one of the foundations that perpetrators require and seek to establish.

Make it your aim that the word “secret” rings alarm bells in your children’s ears. Remind them constantly that “we don’t have secrets!” and that if anyone ever shares a secret with them that their mom or dad get to hear it, too.

“Did you feel safe?”

In this powerful blog post a mother, herself a victim of sexual abuse, describes how when she was a child her own mother used to meet her after a party and, in front of her perpetrator, ask her if she was a good girl, if she did as she was told.

We need to change the way we talk to our children after events.

Ask if they felt comfortable. If they felt safe. If they had any bad bits.

Of course, these questions have to happen as part of a whole conversation where they get to tell you about the chocolate cake fight, and the boy who hilariously strung party hats all over his whole body and chased the dog.

If we strive to keep open channels of communication with our children we can ask them, “Did you feel safe?” knowing we will get an honest answer.

“High five, wave, or hug?”

Lucy Emmerson, of the Sex Education Forum, suggests that children shouldn’t be forced to kiss relatives as it’s important for children to learn that their bodies are their own.

Instead of saying, “Kiss Aunty goodbye!” ask how your child might like to say goodbye. It might be with nothing, a smile, a wave, a high five, a hug. I am a huge advocate that children must never be forced to show affection, yet our children almost always opt for full blown hugs and kisses. I guess this is because they tend to love all the people we hang out with, and they see us willingly showing affection to them. However, they know that only they get a say on what happens to their bodies. They know they will never be forced.

Every so often there is a little awkward moment but I simply let it be, and then call the relative later and explain how important it is that children know their bodies are their own.

I live in a country where one in three girls are sexually abused by the time they are 16. I am willing to put up with a little awkwardness if it protects them from becoming a tragic statistic.8

Will you consider adopting these phrases in your family? Do so and know you are doing your bit to create a world where children can thrive.

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Friday, September 30, 2016

Overcoming Complex PTSD "Yes, You Can!" with Athena Moberg from Trauma ...

Thursday, September 15, 2016


Motivation. It's what makes you get out of bed in the morning
and get dressed and drive to work. It's what makes you work
through lunch and go home late and keep working when you get
home. Without motivation we would accomplish very little. That
being said, if we better understand what motivates us, we can
channel it to achieve even more. There are two types of
motivation: intrinsic and extrinsic. An example of intrinsic
motivation is practicing a hobby in your free time to get better
at it. You are doing it for you. An example of extrinsic
motivation is cleaning your house because you have guests coming
over. You get the idea. Use intrinsic motivation to do creative
work. On the flip side, use extrinsic motivation to tackle
difficult tasks. Know how your work helps others and this will
motivate you to work hard. Finally, and this may seem
counter-intuitive, give yourself something to lose. We value
things when they belong to us. If there's a chance you are going
to lose something that is important to you, you will work even
harder to hold onto it

Team HARO 

Wednesday, September 7, 2016

Child Sexual Abuse / Assault / Violence

Child Sexual Abuse / Assault / Violence

Child Molestation Research & Prevention Institute – a national science-based, 501(c)3, nonprofit organization. CMRPI conducts research to prevent child sexual abuse and provides information to prevention organizations, agencies, professionals and families to prevent abuse. The mission is to focus scientific research on the major causes of child sexual abuse, especially in areas where early intervention can save the greatest number of children and to provide scientific information that supports the prevention actions of the field, especially prevention organizations, professionals and families, Atlanta, GA and Alameda, CA.

ChildSafe – provides services in a safe environment for child and adolescent victims of sexual abuse. At the center professionals ensure that the child's needs, emotional and medical, come first. The mission of ChildSafe is to restore dignity, trust and hope to children traumatized by sexual abuse, San Antonio, TX.

Darkness to Light – the ultimate mission of D2L, to end childhood sexual abuse, can only be accomplished by sharing the solution of prevention, awareness and education with more and more people. This, in turn, builds momentum and over time, changes the way our nation and culture cares for, protects and nurtures our children. Being an active participant in the mission to end childhood sexual abuse is one of the most rewarding things we will ever do ~ and we cannot do it without you. We believe that learning the facts about childhood sexual abuse helps prevent it. Talking about it helps prevent it. Getting involved helps prevent it. The truth is, if childhood sexual abuse can be prevented, it can be stopped. That's why D2L exists ~ to empower adults through awareness and educational programs to prevent, recognize and react responsibly to childhood sexual abuse, Charleston, SC.

Enough Abuse – provides concerned adults, parents, and professionals with the knowledge and skills they need to prevent child sexual abuse in their homes and communities, Boston, MA.

Girls Education & Mentoring Services – empowers young women, ages 12-21 years, who have experienced sexual exploitation and violence to exit unsafe and abusive lifestyles and to develop their full potential. GEMS’ provides young women with empathetic, consistent support and viable opportunities for positive change, New York, NY.

International Centre for Missing & Exploited Children – promotes the safety and well-being of children through activism, policy development and multinational coordination. Their programs and initiatives are uniting the world and providing international solutions to the problems of child abduction and exploitation, Alexandria, VA. – mission is to reach out to youth aged 8 to 17 who are being sexually abused in order to convey, in age-appropriate language, that: they are not alone, they are not to blame for the abuse and should feel not guilt or shame, and that they need to choose a trustworthy adult in their life and tell them about the sexual abuse. The secondary mission of JustTell is to education and empower all youth around the issue of childhood sexual abuse. No one has ever used kids' media and internet sites where kids gather such as Facebook, Twitter and MySpace to speak to young people about this issue. Our messages reach out to molested children and teens using methods and messages they can readily access and relate to. Whether it is by tweets, blogs and bulletins, through the wallet-sized cards our ten Street Teams will hand out as Community Service Projects, or by sexually abused kids accessing our website; we are kid-friendly and as hip as the teens who are helping us. And that gives us enormous credibility with kids who are being sexually abused.

The Mama Bear Effect – seeks to empower adults to actively protect children from sexual abuse by raising awareness, and promoting conversations and behaviors that can prevent abuse. There are many misconceptions regarding this issue. The Mama Bear Effect will work diligently and endlessly to expose the reality of child sexual abuse and put an end to dangerous misconceptions. We believe that all good people have a "Mama Bear" instinct - a desire to protect innocent children from a harm greater than what they could ever imagine. A willingness to face our fears, overpower our desire to turn away from such evil, and conquer the ignorance that clouds our understanding of how child sexual abuse exists and is afflicting our nation and world. We must protect our children.  We will fight back. This is The Mama Bear Effect. 

Mothers Against Sexual Abuse – the mission is to heighten awareness of the hidden epidemic of child sexual abuse through educating parents, caregivers, professionals, and others with the intent to remove the veil of this horrific crime and expose the truth of its tragic impact on children and adult survivors.

National Association to Protect Children – is a national pro-child, anti-crime membership association. We are founded on the belief that our first and most sacred obligation as parents, citizens, and members of the human species is the protection of children from harm. We are committed to building a powerful, nonpartisan force for the protection of children from abuse, exploitation and neglect. We believe that this must be done through a determined single-issue focus, a meaningful mainstream agenda and the use of proven modern political strategies, Asheville, NC.

National Center for Missing & Exploited Children® – helps to prevent child abduction and sexual exploitation; helps find missing children; and assists victims of child abduction and sexual exploitation, their families, and the professionals who serve them, Alexandria, VA.

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National Children’s Advocacy Center – a non-profit agency providing prevention, intervention, and treatment services to physically and sexually abused children and their families within a child-focused team approach. Since opening in 1985 as the nation’s first Children’s Advocacy Center, the NCAC has become a leader in the field of prevention and intervention of child maltreatment, Huntsville AL.

National Coalition to Prevent Child Sexual Abuse and Exploitation – our mission is a unified effort to promote the healthy development of children & youth; and end their sexual abuse and exploitation.

Six Pillars for Prevention: Why We Need Stronger Prevention Polices, 2015. Read news release.

Parents for Megan's Law and The Crime Victims Center – a not-for-profit 501(c)3 community and victim's rights organization dedicated to the prevention and treatment of sexual abuse through the provision of education, advocacy, counseling, victim services, policy and legislative support services. We staff the local and National (1-888-ASK-PFML) Megan's Law Help lines. PFML has recently expanded its mission to include the new Crime Victims Center, a program designed to link all victims of violent crime with crime victim compensation and multi-agency referrals for support and assistance, Stony Brook, NY.

Parents Protect – created by the child sexual abuse prevention campaign, Stop it Now! UK and Ireland and the Lucy Faithfull Foundation, a child protection charity which manages the campaign supported by an alliance of voluntary and statutory sector partners. The campaign aims to prevent child sexual abuse by raising awareness and encouraging early recognition and responses to the problem by abusers themselves and those close to them. 

Resources for Preventing and Addressing Child Sexual Abuse, Maryland Coalition Against Sexual Assault, Silver Spring, MD.

Sexual Assault Resource Agency – provides free counseling and support services for women, children of all ages, and men who have experienced sexual assault and/or abuse, Charlottesville, VA.

SOL Reform ~ Reform the Statute of Limitations on Child Sex Abuse to Identify Hidden Predators and Increase Access to Justice, Professor Marci A. Hamilton.

Stop Abuse Campaign – we are a diverse team of survivors and supporters working together to stop abuse and alleviate its suffering. We hope you will join us. Stopping abuse starts with believing it happens. Take the pledge, become a Believer and we'll send you a prevention tip every week plus ways you can participate in freeing your family and your community from the fear and impact of abuse. We can stop abuse. Join the Believers today and working together, we will stop abuse tomorrow, New York, NY.

Stop It Now! – prevents the sexual abuse of children by mobilizing adults, families and communities to take actions that protect children before they are harmed, Northampton, MA.

Stop the Silence: Stop Child Sexual Abuse – the mission is to expose and stop child sexual abuse and help survivors heal worldwide. Our overarching goals are to: 1) promote healing of victims and survivors; and 2) celebrate the lives of those healed, Glenn Dale, MD.

Vision of Hope – a project of the Pennsylvania Coalition Against Rape. The campaign works to protect our children from the devastation of sexual abuse, Enola, PA.

Wellspring Living – the mission is to confront the issue of childhood sexual abuse and exploitation through awareness, training and treatment programs for women and girls, Tyrone, GA. Read Blog.

In case it is easier here here the source of the article. Happy blogging! -Deborah

Wednesday, August 31, 2016

A new inspirational blog for those with mental health conditions: "Hope from HealthyPlace"

How To Take Your Mind Off Problems

Mental health difficulties such as anxiety disorders, mood disorders, trauma disorders, obsessive-compulsive disorders, and more are notorious for causing people to overthink things and ruminate over problems seemingly nonstop. Thinking about problems too much can interfere in daily life. It's possible to take your mind off problems and find relief from ruminating and over-thinking. Here are ways to do it:

Do something you enjoy. When you actively engage in an activity you love, your mind has something to do. When your mind is distracted with other things, your thinking shifts away from your problems.
Get physical. Regular exercise, even a 10-minute daily walk, energizes both body and mind, and it has a positive impact on the brain that extends to the way it thinks.
Be mindful. Practicing mindfulness means being fully aware, through all of your senses, on what is going on in each moment. The brain can't think about problems and be engaged in the moment at the same time. Again and again, turn your attention to your present moment. Over time, mindfulness will be natural, and you will no longer overthink problems.
Purposefully engaging your mind in positive activities will help you take your mind off your problems—and keep it off.

Here are some more ideas to stop overthinking from our anxiety blogger, Tanya Peterson. Take a look.

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Thursday, August 18, 2016

Don’t Get Mad; How Anger Disrupts Mental Health

Anger is a normal human emotion that can disrupt mental health. Anger, part of the fight-or-flight system, can serve a protective function. Feeling angry fuels aggression and motivates us to fight. Stressful situations; perceived embarrassment, humiliation, or bullying; substance use; and some mental illnesses (such as mood disorders, trauma- and stressor induced disorders, and some personality disorders) cause people to experience strong feelings of anger.

Anger, unfortunately, interferes in relationships, school, and employment. It often leads to isolation and loneliness, which can be frustrating and fuel more anger. Additionally, anger disrupts mental health by diminishing the sense of happiness and overall life satisfaction.

Controlling Anger: Think Before You Act

An effective way to prevent anger from interfering in life is to think differently about situations and people that trigger anger (how to control anger). You can't control how others act, but you can control how you react. Determine what's important to you in your relationships, and speak and act to enhance what's important. When your instinct is to lash out in anger, stop for a moment, breathe deeply, call to mind your values, and choose your actions and reactions accordingly. You'll find yourself acting on anger less and preserving what you love, including your mental health, more.

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