Thursday, August 28, 2014

Protect Your Children
from 2 years old about Body Safety.


Rotherham child abuse scandal: 1,400 children exploited, report finds

Prof Jay said: "No-one knows the true scale of child sexual exploitation in Rotherham over the years. Our conservative estimate is that approximately 1,400 children were sexually exploited over the full inquiry period, from 1997 to 2013."

Revealing details of the inquiry's findings, Prof Jay said: "It is hard to describe the appalling nature of the abuse that child victims suffered."

The inquiry team found examples of "children who had been doused in petrol and threatened with being set alight, threatened with guns, made to witness brutally violent rapes and threatened they would be next if they told anyone".

Five men from the town were jailed for sexual offences against girls in 2010, but the report said police "regarded many child victims with contempt".

District Commander for Rotherham, Ch Supt Jason Harwin said: "Firstly I'd like to start by offering an unreserved apology to the victims of child sexual exploitation who did not receive the level of service they should be able to expect from their local police force.

"We fully acknowledge our previous failings."

Ch Supt Harwin said the force had "overhauled" the way it dealt with such cases and had successfully prosecuted a number of abusers.

But he admitted: "I accept that our recent successes... will not heal the pain of those victims who have been let down."

Wednesday, August 27, 2014

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Man who sexually abused 5 sisters for 20 years sentenced to long prison term


Five sisters who were molested as children by Eric Michael Freeburg were in Clackamas County Circuit Court Tuesday morning to see him sentenced to 25 years in prison.
The abuse lasted for 20 years, starting in 1992 and ending in 2011. The victims, now all adults, were unaware that each of them had been abused until the oldest sister came forward last year and reported the crimes.
Then, said prosecutor Bryan Brock, "the dam broke."
Oregon law regarding the statute of limitations has changed over the years. Under the current law, some sex crimes committed 20 years ago can be prosecuted.
In Freeburg's case, the abuse of the oldest sister, now 28, occurred when she was about eight years old.
At one point in 2002, Freeburg was molesting four of the girls.
One of the girls said she was fondled or engaged in sex acts with Freeburg more than a thousand times. Some of her earliest memories involve Freeburg violations, Brock said.
Freeburg, 57, was charged with 30 sex crimes and pleaded guilty to six of them as part of a plea deal.

"It's not often I charge 30 counts but in this case, it's hard not too," Brock said. "This happened hundreds of times, if not thousands."
Freeburg pleaded guilty to first-degree sodomy, second-degree rape and four counts of first-degree sexual abuse – all Measure 11 crimes that carry minimum mandatory sentences.
Freeburg faced as much as 40 years in prison. The plea deal called for 27 years.
Circuit Judge Eve Miller decided on a term of 25 years.
Freeburg was convicted of taking indecent liberties with a minor in Washington in 1984. He was 25 and in the Navy when he spent the night an acquaintance's home. He was caught fondling a 10-year-old girl. He completed a treatment program as part of his sentence, according to court records.
Freeburg made a brief, contrite and tearful statement.
"I do take full responsibility for my actions," he told Miller. "I deeply apologize to the people I victimized."
Miller said Freeburg's empathy rang hollow, coming long after he was caught.
By the time you came into the five sisters' lives "you had been through extensive treatment ... and it doesn't seem to have mattered a bit," Miller said.
Your actions caused "life-long harm and it takes its toll in many ways," Miller said.
One of the victims said she feels unrelenting guilt. "Maybe I should have said something sooner," she said in a written statement. "My childhood was single-handedly ruined by one person."
"I've been looking forward to this day for 20 years," said the oldest sister.
Twenty five years behind bars is a long time, she said, "but it won't compare to the prison I was in."

-- Steve Mayes


Monday, August 25, 2014

10 Toxic Habits that Drain Your Energy

10 Toxic Habits that Drain Your Energy

It’s time to break the habits that have been holding you back.  Respect yourself enough to let go of the mindsets and routines that have been sucking you dry.

Bear with me for a moment.  You know when you’re driving to an unfamiliar place, blasting the radio while simultaneously watching your GPS spit out directions?  Then you suddenly get to that one part of the route that’s ridiculously confusing, so you lower the volume even though it has no direct impact on the way you read the directions?
That is your life.  The radio noise you need to cut out to concentrate?  That is the needless, energy-sucking noise in your head.

Turning down the radio in the car re-energizes your mind and offers you clarity when you need it most.  You don’t really think about how or why this makes such a huge difference, you just know that it does.

Now it’s time to apply this same principle to all the other noise in your life, starting with the noise in your head.

But how?

Sunday, August 24, 2014

Tuesday, August 19, 2014

Are you being Verbally Abused?
Understand their disease. Stop the hurt. Heal the damage.
(this essay adapted from Tears and Healing Reflections)

Are you being verbally abused?
You may not know how to tell, but even worse, you may be thinking that you are the crazy one. Abusers work hard to distort our reality to make their reality feel safer.
So what is verbal abuse? Ask yourself this: does your partner hurt you repeatedly with words? Does he or she do it to satisfy their own emotional needs, or because they're out of control? Does she or he use the situation to lock you in so you have to tolerate it, or make a huge sacrifice to get away? If you see these three elements in your relationship, you are being verbally abused. The hurt of abuse can come in many ways, including physical attacks, verbal attacks, sexual attacks, withholding things we need including affection, sex, money, or contact with friends and family. Verbal abuse uses words, and often the abuser uses other types of abuse as well.
What is this Disease? Verbal abuse is a behavior, not a disease. But verbal abuse, like all kinds of abuse, is caused by an underlying disease. Healthy people might occasionally lose their temper, leading to an outburst, but a consistent pattern of hurtful verbal abuse can only be the result of a deeper problem. I help a

Sunday, August 17, 2014

Tuesday, August 12, 2014

toxic behaviors

12 Toxic Behaviors that Push People Away From You

12 Toxic Behaviors that Push People Away From You
Your behavior is a little thing that makes a big difference

In our line of work, Angel and I hear from hundreds of coaching clients every month.  Through this experience, we’ve come across scores of toxic behaviors that push people away from each other.  And we’ve witnessed the devastation these behaviors cause – to relationships, to personal and professional growth, and to the general well-being of both the individual behaving negatively, and to everyone in their life.
Let’s be honest – we’ve all acted in toxic, damaging ways at one time or another.  None of us are immune to occasional toxic mood swings, but many people are more evolved, balanced and aware, and such occurrences happen only rarely in their lives.
Whether your toxic behavior is a common occurrence, or just a once in a blue moon phenomena, it’s critical for your long-term happiness and success that you are able to recognize when you’re behaving negatively, and consciously shift your mindset when necessary.

The twelve most common toxic behaviors we see are:

7 ways to help someone stop thinking of suicide

When people talk about suicide, it stirs up something deep in us.

It is incongruent with our biological instinct for survival. We know that something is wrong.
If we love the person, or even care about him, we may start to panic.
What if I lose him?
We may not trust ourselves to help lift him out of the pain. We feel worried and helpless up against darkness that he is facing. We don’t know what to do or what to say.
But we know we have to do something.
As a therapist, I have talked to thousands of people about suicide over the 20 plus years that I have been practicing. I haven’t lost anyone to suicide, but I stay vigilant and meet each new disclosure with my full attention. Each person is incredibly valuable and I don’t want to lose anyone.
I’ve seen people in the most intense pain that you can imagine and I see them afterwards, when they feel better. Seeing this process so many times, I have the retrospective view of the next person coming in. Things change. People get better.
I know you want to help your friend/child/lover/parent get to that “better” place. And there are things that you can do that will be invaluable to helping them and bring the two of you closer together. Thanks goodness.

robin williams quote

Here are 6 ways to respond when someone tells you they are thinking about suicide


Saturday, August 9, 2014

some days I won't do it and
then other days I will do it!

Wednesday, August 6, 2014

10 Things Not to Say to a Depressed Person

Associate Editor

10 Things Not to Say to a Depressed PersonCBS News and published a nice gallery listing what you should and shouldn’t tell a depressed love one.
I have my own list. Here are 10 things you definitely don’t want to say, a collection of the gems that I heard when well-intentioned people opened their mouths and said
 something really stupid to me the two years I was in sorry shape.

1. It’s all in your head. You need to think positive.
Upon hearing this, I wanted to throw a life-size figure of Tony Robbins at them. Because, while optimism is certainly important in training the brain, studies have shown that people who are severely depressed or acutely anxious only activate their amydalas (fear center of the brain) by forcing positive thinking.

Tuesday, August 5, 2014

Monday, August 4, 2014

I thank God every day for
bringing writing into my life.