10 Choices You Will Regret in 10 Years


“If only…”  These two words paired together create one of the saddest phrases in the English language.
Here are ten choices that ultimately lead to this phrase of regret, and how to elude them:


http://www.marcandangel.com/2013/01/18/10-choices-you-will-regret-in-10-years/

Click on link to compare your answer with other people's answers!

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A real gentleman accepts your past, supports your present, loves you and encourages your future.

12 Things You Need to Remind Yourself of When You Wake Up


Each morning is a brand new opportunity.  What you do today is what matters most.  Today is another chance to get it right.
 We may not always love everything about our lives, but deep down we do love and appreciate the magic of life itself.  Some part of us believes that everything and anything is possible.
Sadly, though, we don’t always believe these possibilities are within our reach, even when they are.  The problem is we choose to believe otherwise.  We choose to believe we are incapable of living our lives the way we want to live them, at our full potential.  We choose to accept our reality as others have told us it has to be.
Wake up!
We don’t have to do this to ourselves – none of us do.  We have a choice.  We don’t have to be complacent.  We don’t have to fall into line.  Why not stir things up a bit and live by better rules?

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Recovery of Your Inner Child: The Highly Acclaimed Method for Liberating Your Inner Self Paperback – March 15, 1991

by

Lucia Capacchione (Author)  http://www.amazon.com/dp/0671701355/ref=rdr_ext_tmb

         

The Loneliness Quiz

Based upon the UCLA Loneliness Scale

Instructions: For each item, indicate how much you agree or disagree with the statement. This takes most people about 3 minutes to complete. Take your time and answer truthfully for the most accurate results.

http://psychcentral.com/quizzes/loneliness.html

Depression Screening Test

by Ivan Goldberg, M.D.
Use this brief 18-question online automated quiz to help you determine
if you may need to see a mental health professional for diagnosis
and treatment of depression, or for tracking your depression on a regular basis.

Instructions: You can print this scale out or take it online, using it on a weekly basis to track your moods. It also might be used to show your doctor how your symptoms have changed from one visit to the next. Changes of five or more points are significant. This scale is not designed to make a diagnosis of depression or take the place of a professional diagnosis. If you suspect that you are depressed, please consult with a mental health professional as soon as possible.Answer each of the 18 items below about how you have felt and behaved during the past week. Be honest for the most accurate result.

http://psychcentral.com/depquiz.htm

 

30 Things to Stop Doing to Yourself

When you stop chasing the wrong things you give
the right things a chance to catch you.

As Maria Robinson once said, “Nobody can go back and start a new beginning, but anyone can start today and make a new ending.”  Nothing could be closer to the truth.  But before you can begin this process of transformation you have to stop doing the things that have been holding you back.
Here are some ideas to get you started:

Click on link below:
http://www.marcandangel.com/2011/12/11/30-things-to-stop-doing-to-yourself/

DON'T STAY STUCK!!

"Before you embark on a journey of revenge, dig two graves

15 Toxic Thoughts You Need to Drop For a Better Life




 15Toxic Thoughts You Need to Drop For a Better Life


Wait, what did you just say to yourself?
Were they the empowering, encouraging words you would speak to a friend?  Or were they the belittling remarks you would shout to an enemy if you had no heart?  Or the negative remarks about life you might utter if you had no faith?
All day long you speak silently to yourself, and a part of you believes every word.  So stay mindful, and meditate on this question:
“What do I need to stop thinking and saying to myself?”
Here are fifteen toxic thoughts to ban from your self-talk:


http://www.marcandangel.com/2014/06/18/15-toxic-thoughts-you-need-to-drop-for-a-better-life/

Don’t let the past steal your present. Your past has not defined, deterred, or defeated you. It has only strengthened who you are today.

Theme park employees caught in sex stings, child porn arrests

click this link below for an outrageous article

http://www.cnn.com/2014/07/14/us/theme-park-employees-child-sex-stings/index.html

Britain arrests hundreds of suspected pedophiles

In a massive national dragnet, British police have arrested more than 600 suspected pedophiles who allegedly accessed pornographic images of children on the Internet, authorities said Wednesday.
The sweep comes at a time of heightened sensitivity over pedophilia in a country where sensational stories of the sexual abuse of minors regularly headline the tabloids, which some critics accuse of whipping up public hysteria over the issue.

The operation is not only about catching people who have already offended. It is about influencing potential offenders before they cross that line. - Phil Gormley of Britain's National Crime Agency

Those arrested include doctors, lawyers, caregivers and former police officers, according to Britain’s National Crime Agency. Of the 660 suspects, 39 were known sex offenders.

EVERY CLOUD HAS A SILVER LINING IF YOU DO SOMETHING ABOUT WORRY & ANXIETY

What are anxiety disorders?

Have you taken the screening test?  Then after you read little bit of the article below then click on the link to get more articles and information.

Jump to a section below

• What are the signs of anxiety disorders?
• What are the treatments for anxiety disorders?
• What can I do if I think I have an anxiety disorder?
• Take the next step – Make the connection.
• Explore these resources for more information about anxiety disorders in Veterans.

Anxiety is a normal reaction to stress. Sometimes it can be positive, for example, if it helps you deal with a tense situation in the office, study harder for an exam, handle a new situation, or stay focused on an important task. In general, it helps people cope. But when anxiety becomes excessive, doesn’t fit the situation, or lasts a long time, it can get in the way of your everyday activities and may interfere with how you get along with others.


http://maketheconnection.net/conditions/anxiety-disorder?gclid=CI3NgP_Pyr8CFUWRfgodZiUA6g

Anxiety Screening Quiz

Use this quiz to help you determine
if you might need to see a mental health professional for diagnosis
and treatment of an anxiety or panic disorder.

Instructions: This is a screening measure to help you determine whether you might have an anxiety disorder that needs professional attention. This screening measure is not designed to make a diagnosis of an anxiety disorder or take the place of a professional diagnosis or consultation. Please take the time to fill out the below form as accurately, honestly and completely as possible. All of your responses are confidential.

http://psychcentral.com/quizzes/anxiety.htm

LOVE

Love is great when spoken, but greatest when shown.  Do little things daily to show your loved ones you care.

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Trying to be a better person today than i was yesterday! Just a guy who managed to get his abusers into the courts. A suvivor of Caldicott prep school.

 82 yrs old Peter Wright former headmaster of Caldicott . Infirm and jailed for 8yrs

How Depression Damages Your Relationship & What You Can Do

By Margarita Tartakovsky, M.S.
Associate Editor

Depression is a difficult illness that darkens your thoughts and feelings. It saps your self-esteem, energy, motivation and interest in anything. It’s also tough on romantic relationships.
According to psychologist Shannon Kolakowski, PsyD, in her book When Depression Hurts Your Relationship: How to Regain Intimacy and Reconnect with Your Partner When You’re Depressed, depression diminishes your ability to connect with your partner and creates doubts about your union. Symptoms such as anger and irritability can create tension between partners.
Depression is a master manipulator. “The primary feature of depression is distortion, meaning your perception of life — including your relationship — is easily warped and represented in a more negative way,” writes Kolakowski. You might have more negative thoughts about your partner and your relationship, she says.  Click on link for remaining article

http://psychcentral.com/blog/archives/2014/07/04/how-depression-damages-your-relationship-what-you-can-do/

6 Things That Can Worsen Depression

By Margarita Tartakovsky, M.S.
Associate Editor

There are many articles about things you can do to improve your depression. But what about staying away from those things that can make it worse?
“There are many things a person who lives with depression needs to be mindful of for better well-being,” according to Deborah Serani, Psy.D, a clinical psychologist and author of the valuable book Living with Depression.
Below, she shared six triggers that can exacerbate depression — and what you can do to minimize or cope with them.

1.  Stress.

A surplus of stress spikes the hormone cortisol, Serani said. “Cortisol keeps us in an ‘emergency ready’ state, with states of arousal and irritability that tax our already fatigued body and mind.” To minimize stress, Serani suggested delegating tasks, dividing projects into digestible parts and learning to say no. “Above all, resist the tendency to take on too much at home, work or school,” she said. Check out these other articles on shrinking stress:  Click link for the remaining article

http://psychcentral.com/blog/archives/2012/10/02/6-things-that-can-worsen-depression/#at_pco=tst-1.0&at_si=53bdadb484212a94&at_ab=per-2&at_pos=0&at_tot=2

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God gives his hardest battles to his toughest soldiers

ARCH OF HOPE FOR CHILDREN

this link--Arch of Hope for children--will take you to a different child abuse blog that has numerous articles, statistics, news clipping etc.  like this:

Sexual Abuse:

• Child rape occurs every two minutes
• 1 in 3 girls will be sexually molested before the age 17
• 1 in 6 boys will be sexually molested before the age 17 (1 in 5 in Canada)
• A sex offender will molest an average of 120 victims, most of whom do not report it
• 90% of molesters abuse children they know
• Oftentimes, a sexually abused child is abused in other ways

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I LOVE YOU THAT MUCH!

I LOVE YOU THAT MUCH

The water is rough..
the waves are high..
the force of the waves push me under over and over again...
  I fight with all my strength just to get to the surface..
  for one gasp of life saving air...
but the wave hits again...
and I fight once again for that gasp of air...
I fight you see...
over and over again...



but I get so tired..
until there is no strength left..
  year after year..
month after month..
day after day..
 minute after minute...
over and over and over again..

praying each moment for an end to the struggle...

going through the motions not knowing whats real and whats not.
relationships that don't truly exist disappear as if it never really was..

a mothers heart that's torn to shreds each and every day..
wondering what she did wrong?

Therapy ..
a long and drawn out process..
makes your relive each and every horrific moment.
.

the word love is tossed around like a balloon..
you scan the room to see if it's real or a fantasy in your own twisted mind..

nothing stops the noise inside..
  you toss and turn at night trying to quiet the noise....
you wake form vivid nightmares not knowing where you are..
on Thursday your wondering what happened on Wednesday..

and the the word love again..
"I love you that much"
and you wonder if not for yourself can you fight for those words..
"I love you that much"..

can you ?

Together.. I love you

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30 Things to Start Doing for Yourself

Remember today, for it is the beginning.
Today marks the start of a brave new future.
 

Our previous article, 30 Things to Stop Doing to Yourself, was well received by most of our readers, but several of you suggested that we follow it up with a list of things to start doing.  In one reader’s words, “I would love to see you revisit each of these 30 principles, but instead of presenting us with a ‘to-don’t’ list, present us with a ‘to-do’ list that we all can start working on today, together.”  Some folks, such as readers Danny Head and Satori Agape, actually took it one step further and emailed us their own revised ‘to-do’ versions of the list.
So I sat down last night with our original article and the two reader’s revisions as a guide, and a couple hours later finalized a new list of 30 things; which ended up being, I think, a perfect complement to the original.
Here it is, a positive ‘to-do’ list for the upcoming year – 30 things to start doing for yourself:

1. Start spending time with the right people. – These are the people you enjoy, who love and appreciate you, and who encourage you to improve in healthy and exciting ways.  They are the ones who make you feel more alive, and not only embrace who you are now, but also embrace and embody who you want to be, unconditionally.
2. Start facing your problems head on. – It isn’t your problems that define you, but how you react to them and recover from them.  Problems will not disappear unless you take action.  Do what you can, when you can, and acknowledge what you’ve done.  It’s all about taking baby steps in the right direction, inch by inch.  These inches count, they add up to yards and miles in the long run.
3. Start being honest with yourself about everything. – Be honest about what’s right, as well as what needs to be changed.  Be honest about what you want to achieve and who you want to become.  Be honest with every aspect of your life, always.  Because you are the one person you can forever count on.  Search your soul, for the truth, so that you truly know who you are.  Once you do, you’ll have a better understanding of where you are now and how you got here, and you’ll be better equipped to identify where you want to go and how to get there.  Read The Road Less Traveled.
4. Start making your own happiness a priority. – Your needs matter.  If you don’t value yourself, look out for yourself, and stick up for yourself, you’re sabotaging yourself.  Remember, it IS possible to take care of your own needs while simultaneously caring for those around you.  And once your needs are met, you will likely be far more capable of helping those who need you most.
5. Start being yourself, genuinely and proudly. – Trying to be anyone else is a waste of the person you are.  Be yourself.  Embrace that individual inside you that has ideas, strengths and beauty like no one else.  Be the person you know yourself to be – the best version of you – on your terms.  Above all, be true to YOU, and if you cannot put your heart in it, take yourself out of it.
6. Start noticing and living in the present. – Right now is a miracle.  Right now is the only moment guaranteed to you.  Right now is life.  So stop thinking about how great things will be in the future.  Stop dwelling on what did or didn’t happen in the past.  Learn to be in the ‘here and now’ and experience life as it’s happening.  Appreciate the world for the beauty that it holds, right now.
7. Start valuing the lessons your mistakes teach you. – Mistakes are okay; they’re the stepping stones of progress.  If you’re not failing from time to time, you’re not trying hard enough and you’re not learning.  Take risks, stumble, fall, and then get up and try again.  Appreciate that you are pushing yourself, learning, growing and improving.  Significant achievements are almost invariably realized at the end of a long road of failures.  One of the ‘mistakes’ you fear might just be the link to your greatest achievement yet.
8. Start being more polite to yourself. – If you had a friend who spoke to you in the same way that you sometimes speak to yourself, how long would you allow that person to be your friend?  The way you treat yourself sets the standard for others.  You must love who you are or no one else will.
9. Start enjoying the things you already have. – The problem with many of us is that we think we’ll be happy when we reach a certain level in life – a level we see others operating at – your boss with her corner office, that friend of a friend who owns a mansion on the beach, etc.  Unfortunately, it takes awhile before you get there, and when you get there you’ll likely have a new destination in mind.  You’ll end up spending your whole life working toward something new without ever stopping to enjoy the things you have now.  So take a quiet moment every morning when you first awake to appreciate where you are and what you already have.
10. Start creating your own happiness. – If you are waiting for someone else to make you happy, you’re missing out.  Smile because you can.  Choose happiness.  Be the change you want to see in the world.  Be happy with who you are now, and let your positivity inspire your journey into tomorrow.  Happiness is often found when and where you decide to seek it.  If you look for happiness within the opportunities you have, you will eventually find it.  But if you constantly look for

something else, unfortunately, you’ll find that too.  Read Stumbling on Happiness.                                                                                                         
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